How to Identify Your Desires and Where They Come From

Especially in today’s day and age, there is so much to desire because there is a great knowledge of what can be had, with people on all spectrums of life having their lives on a platform for all to see. If we are all uniquely specific and original, can the things we want look perpetually identical? Or has the day and age convinced us of specific things to desire? Making us lose our voice of individual, specific, original desires tailored for our unique human spirits. You cannot afford to live someone else’s life because you only have one life to live.

How do you know your desire is yours?

How can we be sure of the purity of our desires in our lives? How can we prevent living someone else’s life and not abandon our own? Well, the answer to the question is another question. How old is your desire? Meaning, how deep does your desire run, in the sense of, does this desire exist in some way or another in your earliest, purest, most undefiled years of life, your childhoods? 

Of course, we may all have wanted to be this and that for a time, and then that and this the next time. But all these things may communicate one thing, one true desire. So, what do you know about this desire, about any desire you may have? Do you desire without knowing why or from where? Might you be going after a desire that means nothing to you or your life? Only this is the recipe for an unfulfilled life. That the things you’ve made real are not a reality attached to your unique human spirit. 

How to make your desires your own

We are creatures because we are created; we are created creatures because there is a Creator. It is only in this Creator that we can know the assignment on our lives. It is only in communion with this Creator that we are not lost or hurrying to the wrong place, where we can’t have all we ever wanted but still be in want, never ever-unfulfilled, and never ever-yearning for more. Realise that because we are spirits, physical material things cannot reach us or satisfy us, we need a Spiritual Provider.

And Then

To identify a desire, we must be silent and listen to what comes up from our hearts (spirits) from the good Creator. What are we constantly pondering, or interested in? What doesn’t want to disappear because it keeps coming back and nudging us internally? Emotionally and mentally. It must be stated that the closer we are walking with our Creator, the deeper our relationship becomes, and the easier you are able to hear Him.

Furthermore, to purify a desire, it is important to focus on the result that we want the desire to attain, instead of just saying we want something. Understand the purpose that the desire will fulfil, and therefore remove any inspiration from outer sources that may reduce and dim your desire(s) by making them not from within. Inspiration is at its purest when it inspires us to do something we have always wanted to do and was always going to do, otherwise, it may very well be a thief of our time and our authentic life. All that is truly you will spring forth from within. 

Lastly, all our desires should be God-given, true, justified, and easily justifiable. But, how many of us know that we can’t physically go back to a traumatic event to heal it, that we heal it by talking through and about it? This is the power of conversation and words. How much more is conversation and getting through specific words as an edifying tool if the hefty work of healing can be achieved?

That is, we have to tell ourselves and make it known to the self the logic and internal inspiration behind the desire(s), so they are true and pure thereof. So they are officially coming from within and not from without by the certification of conversation (self-talk guided by the Holy Spirit) through intentional and purposeful introspection. 

There are only so many things we can desire from life, and these can look the same to the physical eyes. But the perception and reasoning behind these desires is what separates them from those of others, and gives them their unique individuality. Perception makes life a reality. Perception is the reasoning that makes the difference between being vain or humble, joyous or sad, willing or unwilling, believing or doubting, giving up or enduring, etc. What is life but a constant choice of such decisions? A constant choice between choosing what you perceive? This perhaps is the only thing that separates all of us humankind from one another. 

For Example

If we live a life based on another person’s reasons, these reasons will have nothing to stick on within us, as they are true to someone else, and living by them will leave us deeply unfulfilled. I want a Mercedes Benz because I purely perceive it to be the best quality and the symbol resembles that of a peace sign to me, making it resonate with my soul and spirit. Then, after seeing me drive and enjoy my Mercedes Benz, as I have the capacity to enjoy it (and not worship it) because it is a pure desire, one decides they want it without a true reason but a superficial one, like, because it’s a luxury car and people will admire them for having it and think highly of them.

Then this desire doesn’t come from your spirit but perhaps from your bruised, unhealed soul. This car as a wholesome desire for me would be the complete opposite for you because your desire for a Mercedes Benz would be externally inspired, not coming from your human spirit internally, therefore making it an impure desire that plays no part in you living a wholesome, fulfilled, joyous life of peace. 

Personally, I Hate Desire

I hate desire because its presence means I am without. And it is through desire that one can be envious of another. It is desire that makes one covet. Desire and a goal are not the same thing to me. A goal is a thing I enjoy pursuing or am fulfilled by pursuing. Desire means I perceive to be lacking something, and what emotional good can come from believing you are lacking? A desire and a goal may be similar, or synonyms, but to me, the difference is how I perceive them, and what they each reap in my life (my day-to-day).

I found myself going from desire to desire, unendingly. Desiring to be done with a task, like finishing a meal, to desiring wealth, desire is the same. I found myself perpetually wishing to be in a moment other than the one I was in, perhaps unless I’m extremely joyous and happily having fun. But I don’t want to live half my life wishing I was somewhere else, doing something else. Only to be doing that once desired thing and yet still wish I was doing another thing, because it’s not about what I’m doing in a moment, it’s about what I have made a habit and a practice within me. The habit of living in desire.

God says He’ll give you what you desire, if you believe in Him and have faith in Him, like a child being joyous as they are thrown in the sky because they know their dad will catch them. I acknowledge the ability to have desires, I’m just saying for my mental and emotional health, I will call my desires goals because of the negative connotation I perceive from the word desire. Remember God is always talking in His perfect and holy state. So I must conquer what needs conquering through His spirits of wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, so I spiritually align with Him.

Numbers never end, so the amount of things that can be had or desired is endless. I think it best for me to not abandon contentment just because I have goals. For me, the abandonment of contentment is desire. I wish you this freedom from desire if you will have it.

May your mind be renewed, your faith be strengthened, and your peace be anchored in Christ, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

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