The Truest Form of Love in Your Life’s Journey

Love cannot be anything else but itself. Love is not love if it hurts us. Love is a good thing and cannot simultaneously be a bad thing as well, otherwise it wouldn’t be good at all. People grossly misdiagnose love when they say “love hurts”. That’s simply untrue.

It is not love that hurts. It is insecurity, fear, mistrust, etc. that hurts. It is most accurate to say relationships hurt instead of saying love hurts. How ever could love hurt when it is loveliness and affection?

When we’re in a relationship and we’re in love, anything that will hurt us will hurt us because it is not love. This is why it is essential to heal ourselves so we can establish a deep self-love that will exterminate insecurity, low self-esteem, fear, self-doubt, and anything that will jeopardise our experience of being in love. Love exists with many other things and those things should not bring love down to their level.

Fall in Love with Yourself

Falling in love with ourselves is an act that every human being ought to do. We fall in love all the time. Falling in love is not just for the romantic partner. We fall in love when we have a new pet. We fall in love with a new friend, camping, a song, a hobby, a location, and so on. In this sense, it is safe to say every human is capable of falling in love.

We should decide to intentionally fall in love with ourselves because unlike all the other things we can fall in love with, being in love with another human being brings out whatever is inside us. If what’s inside us is not love, the “love” within our relationship will be transformed into the pain in its varieties that is inside us. That’s when we’ll think that love is painful when in reality not being healed from insecurities and anxieties and traumas is the only thing that can hurt.

Think about it. When someone lies in a relationship, it is not love that’s hurting us, it’s their dishonesty. When we feel unpleasantly about our boyfriend laughing with another girl it is not love that hurts it is feeling insecure with ourselves.

Unlearn What You Thought Love Was

Love can never hurt us because it wouldn’t be love if it did. Falsely accusing love is taking away the opportunity to address matters of the inner being. If we do not correctly diagnose a matter we cannot cure it.

All that love can be guilty of is putting us in a position to be hurt by the things that are not love. It is our responsibility to ensure that we intentionally heal ourselves so that when in the blissful vulnerability of love we are not susceptible to all that is not loving or good.

Practice self-awareness and introspection consistently to always get to the root cause of the hurt you feel when in a relationship with anyone, in anything situation, and in a relationship with yourself especially. Be mindful and enlightened of the real state of the matter to establish true wellness.

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