Secrets to Why You Should Ask Yourself, ‘How Are You?’

‘How are you?’ is a question we hear and ask on a day-to-day basis or if we engage with someone. It is a greeting courtesy. A courtesy that forms the basis of our connection and communication with one another. ‘How are you?’ is a question and phrase that declares itself to mean: I care about how you are feeling, and I care about how you are doing.

This phrase is often used concerning someone other than the self. We hear it from someone, or we say it to someone, and this declares the importance of community between individuals. It is however not often for the self to ask itself how it is doing or feeling, and it is best that this changes. 

It is important to know how we are. We may think we already know how we are and thus not be required to ask ourself. Be that as it may, asking ourselves ‘how are you’ will force the self to answer the question in more depth than not asking. If we presume to know how we are, it is because we may know the current state of our life factors.

That is, we may have a particular thing or things in mind and base how we are doing in accordance to how those factors in our life that have our attention are doing. Therefore, not answering how we are doing, but answering how our finances are doing, or work, or social life, or school, yet those things are not who we are. 

That is why asking ourselves ‘how are you?’ will give us a different answer than already assuming we know how we are and thus refraining from asking ourselves. In the practice of asking the self ‘How are you?’, we will be forcing ourselves to look and be within ourselves to find out the answer to the question. We will answer by assuming the stance of not knowing, and therefore actively finding out. 

Diagnose Your Emotions and Thoughts

We should find out how we are doing like this: As the self is looking within itself to carefully diagnose the answer, it must see what it is feeling and what it is thinking. What emotions are reigning and what thoughts are reigning? The answer to the states of our emotions and thoughts (soul) will tell us how we are doing.

External factors may play a part in the state of the internal systems, but this is not currently the point. The point is, how are you? The point is knowing our state of being, and if it’s undesirable, acknowledging that as the first step to being well.

Acknowledging that our finances are not good and acknowledging that we are feeling anxious are two separate things. For, we can have bad finances and feel okay, and we can have good finances and feel anxious. 

We should learn how to not have our intrinsic state be determined by the extrinsic states, but for the intrinsic to be immovable and unshaken by external factors in day-to-day living. There are of course special cases like grief where this is neither possible nor necessary to do, as should be. Take the opportunity to sharpen your discernment by knowing exactly what is worth being moved by and what is not.

Have Follow Up Questions

So you answer the question ‘How are you?’ to yourself by finding out, how am I feeling? How have I been feeling? State the emotions by name so that you are processing them so that they can leave because they have done their job of being felt and acknowledged.

Follow up with the question, how do I want to be thinking and how do I want to be feeling? It is wisdom to know that emotions determine thoughts because how we feel will make us think based on what we are feeling, which leads to thought-out decisions (actions) and even words based on the strong initial emotion.

This is the beginning of thought processes (thinking) which, based on the kind of emotion that is the source, reflects the emotion and therefore that moving train (of thought) being able to affect us emotionally pleasantly or unpleasantly in return because of the thought pattern that was inspired, based on the initial inspiring emotion. [Though, actually, not because the thoughts are making us feel bad, but rather because we are still simply feeling bad.]

Being aware of this cyclical process is a self-awareness that will inspire self-control because we will know exactly how we function, and therefore be in a better position to improve the outcome of our functioning. As the self, it is our responsibility to do inner administration as a maintenance practice of wellness.

We are with ourselves (and God’s eyes) more than anyone is with us, with the Spirit of God, we qualify to diagnose our emotions, our thoughts, and our actions. Practice determining the state of your inner self through an hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly maintenance routine through the Word of God to diagnose your emotions, thoughts, and actions, and therefore being in a position to administer treatment for healing and a way forward (growth).

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