The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Our Daily Life

Learning how to handle our emotions is a vital skill for mental and overall health. Emotions are a powerful experience that is ever-present within us and so learning how to handle our emotions is vital for survival and thriving. Emotional intelligence is the ability to feel our emotions without drowning in them.

It’s having the skill of letting go of the negative emotions after feeling them. Letting go through being with the emotion and feeling it and naming it. Processing/Journaling our emotions while being present in them, and therefore being ready and equipped to let them go.

Emotional intelligence is having the intelligence that is understanding that these sensations (emotions) are information about our engagement with a certain moment or situation, as opposed to what the situation actually is.

Emotions have nothing to do with the truth of the matter of events or moments, but rather solely to do with our encounter (perception) with the moments or instances on a personal one-on-one basis.

So, emotional intelligence is the informed way we engage with moments and situations in our life. A lack of know-how when it comes to negative emotions can become detrimental at an existential level.

If we do not know how to deal with and handle our negative emotions, it could go as far as feeling anxiety and depression, etc., because we simply don’t know what to do with our emotional self. The reality of emotional health is the truest wealth in life because then we have mastered being alive.

Tips for Emotional Intelligence

In becoming emotionally intelligent, we first must understand that emotions have little to do with the moment at hand and everything to do with the engraved paradigms and neuron paths of our psyche. That is why healing is crucial in our personal journey because there are instilled ways of being that are rooted in pain and insecurity, which make up our mental and emotional reality.

Secondly, we must understand that we are not our emotions so we do not have to live in emotions going through the motions as a way of living life. This is not truly being alive because the best things in life are not emotions, they are good (positive) spirits (states of being) like, joy, humility, gentleness, love, wisdom, understanding, goodness, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, etc.

These, which are in the spiritual realm reached by our spirit (true self) ought to be what we live in, not emotions. After all, happiness is fleeting as a moment, but joy is ever-present when realized within. Through self-control by the Holy Spirit, be outside emotions and tap into them by your informed willpower, as opposed to them happening to you uncontrollably. We choose what happens within us. This is how we master emotional health.

However, negative emotions ought to not be escaped or buried or neglected or hated. Emotions are guidance and informational, we should not identify with them. They are not us. They are a current update on our perception of any given matter or moment. Knowing emotions for what they are, we will allow them to happen and be felt without restrictions if need be.

Because third is knowing that negative emotions leave only when they have been acknowledged by being felt. As long as we have not felt a negative emotion in its entirety, that is, completely surrendering to feeling the emotion, the emotion will remain.

Whether it is an ancient emotion from five of our life, or an emotion from a heartbreak a few months ago. Just as we know thoughts come and go, and our dwelling in thoughts is neither healthy nor helpful especially when they are negative, negative emotions are meant to be felt in order to leave as opposed to a negative emotion from any given moment making a home in us.

It is best to keep our emotion room free and decluttered for our continued emotional experience and emotional health.

So, emotional intelligence is the informed way you engage with moments and situations in your life.

Fourthly, we must know that it is possible to take hold of ourselves and direct ourselves in the way we should go as directed by the Holy Spirit. A lack of practice in controlling ourselves (through the Spirit) will convince us that we cannot control ourselves, and that would be true. We can do nothing good without the Spirit of God.

Once we know we’ve undoubtedly immersed ourselves in feeling an emotion and being with it for a good while, having processed the emotion fully, it then becomes time to take hold of ourselves and move away from that negative emotion, so it can move farther away from us as well. Ensuring that we don’t become too familiar with the negative emotion to want to keep it or feel it over and over again perpetually and unendingly.

Realising that we are the controller of the process of feeling our emotions and letting them go, as empowered by the Holy Spirit’s fruit of self-control. Only we choose what happens within us. We choose to feel any positive or negative emotion. And that if we don’t control this process, it will surely control us.

How I deal with my emotional entity

How I have come to deal with my emotions is not practicing being in my emotions, both the positive and negative ones. Though I may gladly embrace the positive ones, I understand they are fleeting so I don’t depend on them for my well-being. And I understand that the negative ones, may not be a trauma or a thing that particularly needs healing, and so I don’t engage in them because I equate them to engaging with a negative thought and of course, I shouldn’t do that, so I don’t do that with emotions as well. I root myself in more wholesome states of being, like joy instead of happiness, kindness, humility, gentleness, peace, etc.

Self-control is grossly an underrated term in the self-movement, in the self-love and self-care movement. We only have no control over ourselves because we don’t have the fruit of self-control from God and thus cannot yet practice control over ourselves.

Embrace intimacy with the Holy Spirt and practice self-control for your emotional intelligence and that practice will become a habit and thus inevitably be performed effortlessly. When emotions are positive, they do not harm our well-being, so embracing them cannot hurt us, unless we try to cling on to them which is inadvisable because they are ever-fleeting.

And unless a negative emotion is a call to healing, say from an offence you took from a moment and therefore needing to heal from that moment, process the negative emotion so you can move on. But if it is a negative emotion emerging without a reason, out of the blue, then I suggest you do not practice embracing such sensations as they are the equivalent of negative thoughts, and what do negative thoughts do but pull and keep you down?

Positive spirits are rather the ones you need to have made a home in you. Through the Holy Spirit, let positive spirits (states of being) as your default inner self-mode, which you will return to, once you’ve processed any negative moment you may feel that is in need of healing.

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