Tips for Successful Communication Among All Human Beings

All living organisms communicate amongst themselves through sound and body language. Verbal and non-verbal language (body language) is how life expresses itself, making communication an art of life.

As long as life is moving on, so will communication move. Communication cannot be separated from life because it gives life meaning. Life cannot be separated from communication because it is how life is had.

Language enables communication among human beings. Communication reflects the need to be heard and understood, and a sense of belonging which manifests through the different languages, races, cultures, and traditions that people use to belong, though these cause separation more than fulfill a need to belong. We belong in life, on the earth, with all other living organisms in the universe.

Nature communicates with itself. That’s how photosynthesis and rain happen, it is all the language of nature. And we are a part of nature, that is our place of belonging.

Communication Is A Skill

Seeing as language is a reality we are born into, it seems frivolous to ensure that it is a skill we master. However, relationships end because of bad communication, and all of humanity connects to itself only through relationships.

With the high rates of divorce, anxiety, depression, and suicidality, etc., it is clear that there is a lack of communication among humans. Or rather that there is communication, but it is not good, fruitful communication.

So, communication proves itself to be a skill that not all master and should therefore be a skill that is retaught and relearned for mastery, for the sake of all. I believe this can happen if language and communication stand separate from each other, like pillars.

Language is a Tool for Communication

Language may be taught in school so one speaks coherently, but communication is a whole other hand that does not solely benefit from speaking. Communication is a discipline that requires its own teaching and practice.

Communication is not just words, it is tone, body language, and voice.

Human language is made by letters and their sound, but communication is made by more than just spoken word. Human language should consider emotional intelligence when communicating because it depicts tone, which is the real meaning behind your words.

We know the many words we can say to depict what we mean, but what we mean is also represented by our tone of voice and body language, like facial expression.

As is evident to grown up humans, tone speaks louder than words. Our body language also speaks louder than our words. All these speak louder than words because they are communication, not language.

There is sufficient knowledge in communication consisting of words (sound), which is the only hand school covers. It may seem homeschooling must be an actively practiced duty for all the shortcomings of the educational systems and powers that be, for the sake of the human community.

Not necessarily taking our offspring out of traditional schools (though I certainly will be homeschooling, perhaps with an online school curriculum and mine combined, I’m not sure), but not depending on that school system alone to develop our offspring. Indeed communication is not inherent because it can either be good, or bad, and if it’s good it is intentionally made to be good through knowledge, intent, and practice.

For communication to be communication, it must be good and purposeful. It must not bring apart (unless being apart is its goal, like an overdue breakup), but it must bring together and bring harmony and clarity, not confusion.

Confusion becomes alive in communication when language (words) is not aligned within the communication, that is, when words (language) are misaligned with tone and body language, and therefore where things start to go amiss.

Tips for Successful Communication

For communication to be successful the roles of listener and speaker should be established. This knowledge ought to be concretely established and practiced (not just known).

For successful communication, each of these roles is assumed and performed and exchanged one for the other for there to be a foundation of fruitful communication.

Second is knowing that tone is what depicts what we mean, not the words used. Our tone is louder because tone carries thought and emotion. Words are extrinsic, and tone is intrinsic.

Thirdly choose words that align best with the meaning you’re trying to convey. Now that we know tone is most important, we can place some importance on words.

In doing this, it is important to first know what we mean to ourselves so that we can verbally communicate that specific meaning. Knowing what we mean is knowing what our spirit feels and thinks.

Fourthly is being aware of your our body language and using it as a tool to further convey our communication (self-expression). This is ensuring and being aware that our tone (what we the spirit really think and feel), words, and body language (bodily expressed emotion and thought from our spirit) are all aligned in meaning the same thing, the very meaning we know to be true.

Emotions in Communication and in Your Life

Of course, human emotion is the real doom of communication. So, fifth but not least is mastering our emotions. Emotions are themselves communication within us, and so we need to be emotionally enlightened to understand how to handle our emotions.

Emotions are not a reason (or excuse) to hurt or bruise another with our tone, words, or body language. They are an opportunity to know the reality of our moment, produced by the history of our emotional self. Firstly, we need to heal our emotional self so that we are not living by the toxicity of our unhealed emotions from past pains and traumas.

Lastly is understanding that we are spirits; we are not our emotions, for how could we be an emotion itself if we are feeling the emotion? When healed, and not in need of emotional healing (processing an emotion) from a moment even from earlier in the day, we must step out of our emotions and live as our spirit, not living within our emotions, being tossed to and fro by them (going through the motions.)

All that is needed is the knowledge of emotions. How to feel them without drowning, how to be in them in preparation for letting them go because they are not who we are. The Holy Spirit is the key to discovering the personality of our human spirit, which will be revealed through our soul.

The most valuable things in life are found only in the spiritual (untouchable) realm through our spirit. And these are kindness, joy, peace, even love (for true love is not a fleeting emotion), gentleness, patience, humility, self-control, faithfulness, patience, goodness, etc. And also, wisdom, knowledge, counsel, might, the fear of the Lord, the Spirit of the Lord, and understanding. These are all spirits, not emotions or thoughts. So step into your human spirit and live through it as in unison with the Spirit of God. When your spirit feels, it feels peace, gentleness, etc. And when your spirit thinks, it thinks through wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. Never bodily fleeting emotions and unending random thoughts.

Of course, everything begins simply by you deciding that it should begin. So, decide today to be intentional and purposeful in how you live your life and how you communicate. Ensure you are born again through the Spirit, and if you are or just became so, ensure you are constantly reading (meditating) on the Word of God, the Bible.

Reap the gift of communication that is wholesome, healthy, and meaningful in relationships, even in relationship with yourself and God.

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